Everyone Wants Something

   Lately, I've been feeling like everyone wants something from me. They want favors, advice, help, for me to take care of something for them, get them something, rarely anyone wants to talk to me just to talk, there's always another motive. Most friendships build on this: the whole "I help you, and in turn you'll help me" circle, and as long as that actually works, it's all fine, because that's the way it's supposed to be in friendships.
   But when your so called "friends" stop being around for you, always want your advice or something without giving you something back, like you are their personal amateur psychologist, there is a thing very wrong in your relationship, and I think it's very important to be able to see the difference between using someone and just asking them for some friendly advice. For example, if we meet up several times, and all that happens is that you lay your personal crap on me, there's no time for you in my life, because you're using me. If we meet up, and we both share stories, problems and questions, perfectly fine. Keep in mind that people are not here to please you, because most of us have more than enough crap to deal with without you barging in and claming our time for yourself.
   Everyone needs to lean sometimes. We need to tell our friends secrets or issues, but if all you do when you meet your friends is you complaining about your personal issues, something is clearly wrong. Lean on your friends, it's perfectly fine, but make sure they know it's okay for them to lean on you too. And if you think leaning on your friends is perfectly fine, but them leaning on you is crossing a line, you really need to re-consider what you're doing in that relationship.
   Same goes for you if you're concerned with your friends using you, because despite them doing something wrong in your relationship, you still enable it to happen. There's still something you do that lets them know that it's okay to step all over you and your needs and emotions. Examine yourself, and figure out why you're always there for them, what you're trying to acheive by doing so, and maybe you'll realize that it's time to drop that so called friendship, or you figure out a healthier way for the both of you to coexist.
   People are not here in this world to cater to you, and you are not here to please them either.