"Which One of You Is the Girl?"

   This is something that I've never understood. That there is really people walking around, asking gay and lesbian couples "Which one of you is the guy? Which one is the girl?" Because guess what, stupid. When you're in a gay relationship, it's kind of the point that both of you are men, because they're not attracted to girls. When two lesbians are in a relationship, it's kind of the point that neither of them are men, because they're not attracted to men. They want to date someone of the same gender, aka: neither of them has to be the other gender for the relationship to work, and neither of them need to have traits of another gender to make the relationship work.
   Also, the fact that you think that one or both of the members have to be a certain way for the relationship to work. In heterosexual relationships, does the woman have to be able to cook? Does she have to wear dresses? Because if she's not feminine enough, the relationship won't work out?
   Dear people claiming that gay couples have to have a masculine and a feminine part, you are very much missing the point regarding same sex relationships. And, just because someone doesn't fit your ideal view of a relationship, you're not allowed to act surprised and belittle them. People in relationships don't have to fit your standards or ideas of a good couple for them to be a great match.
   Now, it's obvious that I'm not gay (I think anyone that has ever known me has been able to tell) but that doesn't mean that this doesn't bother me. Because this statement, and the question of "So, which one's the girl?" hurts my friends every time they're asked, and they never know what to reply.
   So here you go. Before you go ahead and ask this stupid question again, think about this blog post, and think about the answer you should already know. Think about the basic logic that tells you that gay couples don't want to imitate heterosexuality. Well, at least it should be telling you that.
   Destroy the idea that in gay couples one has to be masculine and one has to be feminine to imitate heterosexuality.